I can't small talk! + Happy First of May!

Recently I've been bothered by that though I am quite a talkative person I often hear foreigners complaining that Finnish people are unsocial or hard to approach to make an acquaintance with. Even I have been told that I seem uninterested making new friends with the person I just met because I'm not attending the conversation actively enough.

     This has really been  bothering me. I think that maybe it is because in Finland it's not typical to small talk.

I have learned many languages and one of the most hard things to learn was this small conversations about the weather or the deco or anything not that important. It felt so ridiculous to point out such small things that the other part obviously already knew.

     For me chatting is fun and I love to talk with different people. However, it is extremely difficult to me start the conversation unless I actually have something to say. Of course there are situations I just have to come up with a conversation starter but on a daily basis it is rather rare. Having awkward silence during the conversation is quite normal but not a reason to be bothered. Especially, with friends it is okay to be silent for longer periods and they definitely aren't troublesome.

     What I find troublesome is to show my interest to the conversation by saying things like "Oh, how interesting", "No way!" or "You are kidding me!". Actually, in Finland it could be seen as rude action. You shouldn't interrupt when someone else is talking, especially when discussing with people you just met. Of course, with friends it's different.

In the end everyone one is an individual and different but the cultural environment does affect one's way of thinking to some extent. It is curious why Finnish people seem to be often described almost antisocial people.

     I'd love to hear about your experiences. How do you see people from different nationalities? What kind of stereotypes you have come across? Feel free to share those in the comments.

Oh, and by the today we are celebrating the First of May eve or May Day eve (not too sure because in Finnish we call it "vappuaatto" and the name has nothing to do with May 1). Which means bunch of Finnish people are getting wasted at the moment. I'm not that much into drinking but occasionally it's fun (of course, it's okay only if you're an adult). However, today I've been feeling very tired and a bit ill so I decided this year I'll spend a "me day" at home cuddled up in the corner of my couch sipping my mom's homemade drink called "sima" and munching "tippaleipä" which both are traditional things to enjoy during the May Day.

Tippaleipä and glassful of sima <3

I really need to cram this one exam I still have left but after that my summer holiday is going to start. Before that I really need to do the spring cleaning and I thought I could do the "apartment tour" post after I get everything cleaned up! Let's see when I'll get the inspiration to post something again!

I Hate My Boobs!

I'm not sure if this is a wise decision to talk you all about this but most of my friends don't understand my point.

I really hate my boobs! It's not that I hate breasts. They are important part of a female body after all. But when you are naturally busty it can be really stressful and even physically demanding sometimes.      Let me introduce you three reasons why I hate my own boobs.

Stiff shoulders

I have big breasts. I'm often told that guys like it more that way and other girls are jealous of them. However, no one seems to understand how much they weight. Boobs are heavy! And when there's extra weight on your upper body you'll easily suffer from stiff shoulders and headaches. Also, it is very hard to hold up a good posture.
     Furthermore, sometimes I have problems with doing sports because of the breasts. First of all, running freaking hurts! Especially during the certain time of the month when they are really sensitive and hurt all the time except when not moving. Secondly, I can't do some exercises or stretches because my boobs are in the way and I can't complete the movement. And because I do taekwondo I've got hit or kicked on the chest... not a pleasant feeling.
     Plus, so far they haven't been helpful at all when it comes to guys. Or then it's my face that scares everyone which I highly doubt because then everyone would avoid me.

Clothes

No one likes to go shopping with me because it takes forever to find clothes that fit me well enough. I'm a curvy woman and today's fashion clothing doesn't produce clothes for women like me. For example finding a fitting blouse is a real problem for me. If I find a piece that fits perfectly on the chest then it's way too big on my waist and makes me look a lot chubbier than I actually am. My hips actually cause a similar problem when buying trousers. Apparently there is no need to make trousers for women who actually have wide hips or/and round butt.
     Also, it is expensive to have boobs if your cup size bigger than E. At least in Finland most of the normal clothing stores don't sell bras bigger than E cup. So usually I have to go to a actual lingerie store and buy bras that do fit me well but which cost at least 80 euros. Compared to my sister who gets them for only 10 euros the prize difference is ridiculous. As a student I can't afford to buy new bras that often if they are expensive so I can't buy new ones as often as I should.

Social life

Whenever I meet a new person they easily end up "secretly" staring at my chest, regardless of their gender. Sometimes it is really annoying. After all, they are just a body part full of fat. Although I think that most annoying thing to here is: "Wow, you're so lucky! I wish mine were as big as yours." Most of my good friends tell me this from time to time despite the fact that I have told them it is really irritating.
     And because of these lovely friends of my I've started to become quite self conscious about how I dress. Before, I enjoyed wearing clothes that show off my boobs (in a decent way) but now I try to cover them with scarfs or wearing multiple layers whenever possible - obviously during summer time it's way too hot.

But seriously, if your a girl that is jealous of big boobs... trust me, it's not that great. Even now my shoulders are aching while writing this post. And if you're a guy thinking big boobs are all that matters... boobs are just pure fat! If you are dating someone with big boobs pamper her with shoulder and back massages to ease her pain. She really needs it.


I already apologize for this little rant of mine but it's something I've been holding back for many many years.
    Hopefully I'll come up with something positive next time! :)